17 & PREGNANT STORY – How I found out


안녕하세요 제 이름은 나미입니다! Hi everyone, it’s Nami. Today I wanted to talk to you guys about how I found out that I was
pregnant the first time and what my symptoms were. I did do a birth story
of how my first child Galahad was born, which
I will put right here for you guys to click through, and that story basically started from the day that we were giving birth and so today I wanted to talk about the pregnancy part of that. Galahad is now three and a half years old and so at that time I was in
my first year of university. I was studying human
services, social work. And I did skip a year of high school as a lot of you may already know. I was 17. I had no symptoms at all. At the time, my period was irregular. Sometimes I would have 25 day cycles, and then some cycles
would be 60 days long. So, it was completely irregular. It had been about 50 days
and I was not worried because I was just like,
“My period’s irregular. “I feel fine.” But then Michael, he goes,
“Nami, are you pregnant? like, “Where’s your period?” He was really worried. And, at the time, I wasn’t even worried because in a way, I kind of felt okay if I was to be pregnant just because at that time
I was really insecure and unstable and my family
life was really dysfunctional. I felt secure and safe with Michael and I felt like I would
be even more secure and safe if I had his child, which completely does not apply. You should never feel
that way about anyone. However, I think I’m very
blessed with the person that Michael is and the way
that he stayed responsible and stayed with me all through everything.
(80% of teen mom partners leave) My mother also had me
with her second husband and she actually believed that if she had a child with him that he
would change his bad habits, that he would stop drinking, that he would stop smoking, that he would stop going out and playing and using up all the money. However, it got worse
after she got pregnant. I did hear from a worker
that the first signs of abuse show during the first pregnancy and so after she was pregnant with me he started to become very abusive and definitely, for sure,
if you have a child, that is not going to change the man. The child is not going to
automatically radicalize and open his eyes to all of
the bad things that he’s doing, and it definitely won’t make
your man want to stay with you. In a way, depending on
where they are in their life and their maturity, it might even want to make them run away even more. So that was wrong in my thinking that it would become more stable or that I would become more
happy if I had his child. However, it did play out that way because of the man that he is. A lot of you say that I’m blessed with him and I honestly believe so because he does have his faults as well,
but at the same time I think he is very responsible and he takes care of me very well, and I’m so thankful for him in my life. Going back to the story,
I wasn’t that worried. I wasn’t that scared if I was pregnant. But I decided to take a test anyways to make sure and confirm. So I bought three tests
from the Dollar Store, the one time use ones
that you just discard, and I remember that my urine
was a little bit cloudy. It did, TMI, it did smell a
little different than usual, so those are some signs
that you could be pregnant. I took the first test on a morning and then the second test two days later and then the third test
two days after that. I head that that’s the most effective way to know if you’re pregnant or not. I did the test at my parent’s house because I was living on dorm at the time and I was home for the
weekend or something and it came out positive,
like, immediately, right when I dropped the
dropper onto the stick. It was immediate positive reaction and I was like, “Okay then.” Right after I got my results,
I texted my friend Krystiana because she’s one of my closest friends and the closest friend at that time. I told her that it came up positive and she was with Michael at school and she told him and he was
like, “What does that mean?” ’cause he didn’t know what that meant. I don’t know how he was
feeling when she told him, “That means that she’s
pregnant,” but I told them that I’m going to wait another two days to take the test again just to confirm. I waited another two
days, I took the test, it came up positive immediately again, and then I waited another
two days and then just did it for the sake of doing the third one because already you know
for sure that I’m pregnant. If you hear Galahad
playing in the background, I hope you don’t mind. I’m sure if you’re here on this video you know that there’s a child. He’s in this room and he’s
just playing on his road mat. After all three tests were positive, we went to a clinic and asked them to do a test just to confirm-confirm, and they did confirm
that we were pregnant. I remember the lady at the clinic, and I don’t know if she was a nurse or she was just working there. She asked what our plans are and what we’re thinking of doing, and Michael said that we’re going to take responsibility of the child and we’re going to have the child and we’re planning to get
married in three months. (child talking) I remember the lady being like really extremely happy and glad in a way. We actually were planning to get married in my first or second year of university and we’re speaking with both sides of our family about the marriage. My mother said that she would support us if we decide to get married. This was the summer before the late fall when we did get pregnant, but my father said he would prefer if we finished school first, but would be okay if we were really were pushing to get married. Mind you, my mother and
my father saw Michael almost every day for about three years and so they really knew
what kind of person he was. I guess he kind of grew
on them in a sense. However, Michael’s parents were living two hours away from us
and Michael’s mother would only see me occasionally and whenever she saw me was
in my home with my mother and my mom and I have a lot of conflict because of our personalities,
they just clash, and we raise our voices a lot and get annoyed at each other a lot. That’s basically all my
mother-in-law was seeing of me and I understand why she
felt the way that she did towards me at the time because
of what she was seeing of me. So when Michael went up to talk to them the summer before we got
pregnant about getting married, they were very hesitant and told Michael to wait at least another three years just so that we could finish school and wait for his older
sister who’s four years older to get married first. His side of the family
is very big on family and that’s something
that I am so grateful for now that I’m part of their family, but at the time it was really hard for me because I wasn’t part of their family and in a way I felt a lot of hostility. Not to say it was
objectively coming from them, but I subjectively was perceiving that. They told him to wait three years, let his sister get married
first, and we’ll see after that. However, as I mentioned, I
was very emotionally unstable. I was very controlling and very not well. Very suicidal and I was not well. Just because I was so scared
that he would leave me, I was always questioning him about things because I wanted to be
the most important person in his life and that came
out very controlling. At that time I was an ESFJ and I did read in a bio that after experiencing
some sort of trauma, ESFJ’s tend to be quite controlling and so that’s what I was. I just grew up with a lot of abandonment, a lot of isolation and
alienation and ostracization in my childhood and so I guess that really shaped my fear of being abandoned. Towards Michael, I would
always be that way, and so I think that’s
one of the reasons why I wanted to get married earlier, was so that I wouldn’t have this fear gnawing at me every day. Also Michael and I, from the
beginning of when we met, we kind of saw each other
as very good friends and someone that we could
really spend a lot of time with and basically spend the
rest of our lives with. -Mommy? -Yes Going back to the story,
I remember the lady, she was really happy and kind of glad that we were not choosing
to get rid of the child. -Hm? Where’s my sciiiiiisoooorrssss Your scissors? Here it is. – Somebody can’t just put my scissors up there Somebody have to just put my scissors right there! Yes. Be careful of the cord, here. I guess that kind of
showed how many people do come in and decide to choose abortion, which I’m not going to say anything about. Of course that’s their decision but for us, that’s
something that we didn’t want to think about at all, and we did want to take
responsibility and follow through. They did confirm that
I was around six weeks or something like that. We were planning to get
married two months later from that point, so I would be three months pregnant on our wedding day. During that time I didn’t
feel any symptoms at all. Usually there’s a lot of morning sickness, dizziness, nausea. For me, I just felt hungry all the time and I would eat like crazy, which is so uncharacteristic of me. I got very sensitive to smells so I couldn’t stand the smell
of onions or garlic or farts. -I just, like strong smells, I just couldn’t-
-Mommy? Yes? I think that’s the only
thing that changed for me. However, on my second pregnancy, it was completely different. The symptoms and everything like that was just very different, so I will be making a video talking about how I found out I was
pregnant the second time -and what the symptoms were.
-Huh!? Whaaaaaaat !!!! It’s okay, just do it patiently. Do it slowly. You’re cutting to fast. Do it slowly. And we did also make a video
on how we told our parents, so if you want to see that
video, it’s right here. I’ll put it right here. You can check that out and see in detail more what it was like. That’s basically how I found out that I was pregnant the first time. I think that everything turned out very- the best way that it could have been. I mean, if we never had the children, I think we probably wouldn’t
have stayed together because I was just such an angry person. Going back to how his
family thought of me, after the wedding day they
completely were so welcome to me and that was the first
time- I’m gonna cry. That was the first time
that I ever experienced, like, that was the first
time that I finally knew what the word “family” meant. Oh, I’m gonna cry. They were just so welcoming
to me, so warm, so loving, and because I grew up
with only just my mom and she was a single mom so
I was always with babysitters and we were moving a lot so I never really had steady friends. I kind of grew up by myself. When they were so loving to me
and so warm and so different than how they were towards
me when I was dating Michael, I think I just felt so healthy
and healed in a small way. Of course, my healing
process was definitely longer and more complex than that, but I think that did help in
the changing of my character. I remember the day after we
got married I changed so much. I was so patient, and not angry, and nice, and not fighting or yelling
at Michael or hitting him. I think every year it gets better for us. I am definitely grateful
and glad for everything that has unfolded and the way
that things have unfolded. I think it could not
have been any other way and I honestly believe that
everything was in control and in a way was God’s gift to me. Anyone can say it was an
accident, which it was, or that it was
irresponsible, which it was, or that it was sinful, which it was. But I believe, honestly,
that everything unfolded and God allowed for things
to happen so that in the end, things would be a lot better than if they were a different way. Just because that kind of event
didn’t happen in our lives, it doesn’t mean that our
lives would have been perfect. There would have been
a lot more other things that we wouldn’t have had
to deal with if it had turned out the way that
things did turn out, instead. It’s kind of like, if you
imagine parallel dimensions. Any path that you take will have its disadvantages
and advantages. Everything is an equivalent exchange, however I think things
played out a lot better like this in terms of my
sanity and our happiness. I think the most important part is to continually try to grow. Continually be wanting to learn and change and become a better person
than you were last week. Before I continue on
rambling and rambling, I am going to end this video because I did address the
purpose of this video. I did want to mention that
I’m definitely not saying that the amount of happiness
that I have come to grow in isn’t from having a child, but having Galahad
allowed my life to change so that I could be surrounded
by good relationships, a healthy and stable
relationship with my husband, a good relationship with my family, with my church family, faith
family, and also friends. I think that those components
are the most important components to be able to
experience happiness in your life. I will link a study that
was done on happiness that I read that I found really helpful in the description box as well. So I hope you guys enjoyed and learned a little bit more about, you know, how I found out I was
pregnant with Galahad. Again, I will have all the links of the other videos
down in the description, including how Galahad was born and how we told our parents we
were pregnant the first time. I will be making a video
about how I found out I was pregnant the second time with Ziek. Make sure you subscribe to stay updated. I do post on Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, so check me out on those if those are platforms that you use. Thank you guys so much for watching and I’ll see you next time. Bye.

100 Replies to “17 & PREGNANT STORY – How I found out”

  1. Sweet story. And very optimistic – that rough childhoods and teen years can get better. Damaged goods can be repaired. Thanks for telling.

  2. You are such a inspiring person and a good mom I love that you are strong you are really beautiful ps your children are beautiful ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Your eyebrows are so nicely shaped and soft! & btw I know what youโ€™re going through in terms of bleached hair. I went blonde. I LOVE blonde. Swear off any heat products including blow drying. Your hair heals! Hair heals. I promise you that.

  4. Nami I understand you so much… I too was so controlling and insecure, and like you I grew in a very bad situation at home… My dad didn't wanted to have children but I was born, he never treated me like a daughter, and was very emotionally agressive… My mom was a piece of ice, Well… I know how you feel… I needed a lot of therapy and medication fir all the anxiety, depression and bpd I have… Now I am stabl and have a wonderful partner! Thank you for sharing all this! <3

  5. I wouldn't call it an accident, it was a surprise. It's clear that you love your kids and wouldn't trade them for anything, no matter how crazy it might have been getting to where you are now as a family. I know this is an old video but thank you for sharing.

  6. 8 minutes into this video and I can tell how wise this young gal was. Social work seems like the perfect job for her.

  7. you are very strong you made the right decision with your life and you should take good care of your self and i know you take very good care of your family by your videos and your personality by explaining! take care! you are clearly a good wife and a very good mother!you made good decisions.

  8. I was just scrolling and I saw your video on how u met bts for fee, you seemed so fun so I had to see more, I found this, I find it amazing how strong you are also you have such a beautiful family, I love you videos

  9. Im a new subscriber and stumbles across your channel by watching BTS videos XD but this is a beautiful story and i also died when your son asked for his scissors and then you said be careful of the cord and then continued talking like nothing happened XD you are an amazing person! I hope many people find out about you and you keep growing! <3

  10. Wow amazing video and you really have confidence in doing that! I admire you for that!โ™ก I just don't get why many people are saying "We are pregnant" ๐Ÿ˜€ cause you are the only one who feels the pain and gives birth to the child. I have no experience with that and I'm not a native speaker ๐Ÿ™ˆ.
    Greetings from Germany๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜

  11. Oh girl you are so strong, god bless you, Michael and Galahad โค. I'm glad I accidently clicked onto this video

  12. I love how you became a stronger person and a better person you are a good mom and you and micheal are such good parents and ps Galahad is super cute

  13. +NamiiCho Hi Namii, this is a late comment but, my sister is pregnant with her first child and is scared/nervous about the delivery process. Is there any advice you can give her to make her not worry to much and feel more calm in a sense as to not cause her any panic (?). Thanks

  14. I love how she'll stop what she's doing to help her baby boy. It drives me nuts when parents would just completely neglect their child. I can't speak from experience about being a parent but I'd like to think that I'd pay attention to my child.

  15. Is it just me but does galahad look so similar to seungjae from return of superman? Sooooo cuteee ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

  16. I admire your story, to be strong and try to control yourself after a lot of emotions and surprises! Kiss to your beautiful family :)! โค

  17. I can seriously listen to you for hours, I love how you speak well. Also your makeup is so pretty

  18. Iโ€™m sure if youโ€™re here on this video you know that there is a child
    Heโ€™s in this room
    And heโ€™s just playing on his road mat.
    ๐Ÿ˜‚

  19. I watched this on 2018 but let me just say that you and Michael are very strong, and rational. Although we are complete stranger, but I'm very happy for you two. Love you ๐Ÿค—

  20. To be honest

    Girl.
    Girl!

    I didnt even know you had a child when i first saw your videos (im new)

    You look really young and you do not look like you have had 2 children

  21. "that was was the first time-" "agh I'm gonna cry" me when I'm reading a book , watching a movie or telling a story๐Ÿ˜‚

  22. Thanks for sharing your story Nami! Hope you and Michael and the kids are doing well ๐Ÿ™‚ really proud of how far youโ€™ve come and how vulnerable you were able to be in this video

  23. Hey this was popped up as my recommended me but Iโ€™m assuming because we are both Korean American/Canadian. I just wanted to comment that mothers are so strong. You just want to provide the best environment and anything you can provide for the child. Sending you lots of love ๐Ÿ’•

  24. Im a year late, sorry, just wanted to say that my mom was pregnant with me at 17, sadly, my father figured out and abused her until he went to prison.

  25. i love you <3 new sub here ๐Ÿ™‚ God bless you. I think it's rare for believers of Christ to be on YT, and that you took a "controversial" role up – that's bravery I say ๐Ÿ™‚ much love!

  26. I wonder how Michael felt when she pressured him with questioning a lot I feel like it was more all her to just marriage and rushing lol but she scaring me with how her mindset is ๐Ÿค” Iโ€™m just glad they are feeling better

  27. Just posting something because I saw bad comments about abortion. It's probably the first time I am writing this for everyone to see in 10 years, but I got an abortion at 18 and I can assure you that this was the best choice I ever made in my life even though it was the most difficult one. Abortion is responsability as well as keeping the child. Everything depends on the situation and the reasons behind your choice. Those reasons must be healthy. If you keep the child in attempt to keep a guy or to change him even though your current situation isn't stable enough for you to be able to take good care of a child, this isn't taking responsibility. You might give a shit life to someone who didn't do anything wrong. As for my situation, the guy I was with refuse to take any responsability as he said "do whatever you want but if you keep the child, I will never recognize the child and never help to take care of him. You will be alone in that." As I really don't come from a rich family, I was broke myself, even though I was working while studying for my first year at uni, and not ready at all to have a child, I chose to abort. Not just for myself.. Actually I did it mostly for the child. A child without a father before even being born, and child living in poverty. If I have to have children, I want for them to live in the best conditions, emotionally and economically. This choice got me a depression for more than 2 years. I had to stop uni because I just couldn't go out as I felt ashamed and I couldn't say a word of what happen to avoid getting judged by people. It was so hard. I still have a hard time just remembering the moment. I got better by realising I did the best thing for both of us. Now I'm working as a French teacher, I graduated 3 years ago and I'm way better. But please, don't say people who choose to abort are cowards. We are very brave to make a choice everyone will judge and can isolate us and make us feel like monsters especially if we do this thinking about the child. I wish everyone who did the same as me to happy and to never let other people judge you and bring you down. Peace to everyone.

  28. Iโ€™m Korean toooo ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    Sorry Iโ€™m just really proud of my culture even tho I donโ€™t look korean

  29. This makes so much sense. I was shocked when I found out you were younger than I am. But after learning more about your story, everything makes so much sense. I think your experiences have shaped you for the better. You are mature beyond your years and it shows in the way you carry yourself today especially with your latest videos. You have earned a sub and I have learned to not quickly judge a person before you learn about them and what they may be going through.

  30. Hi, I tried to sent you message but couldn't. I'm really touched with your stories since I am too a young mom myself. The only difference would be that you have such an amazing boyfriend whom support you and loving you while am a happy single mommy with a beautiful daughter. My boyfriend left me and neglected our baby, thus since that day I decided to be a single mom. Hearing your stories make me feel encouraged and not feeling so lonely at all. Thank you for being so brave and bold, and thank you for being you! I hope we could meet someday! God Bless you and your lil family Nami๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

  31. Good to see you!! Thanks for good information ๐Ÿ‘ Merry Christmas too๐Ÿ˜ I subscribed now๐Ÿ‘

  32. I showed my mother my mother said you are very strong,young,patient teen mom
    I hope you stay very strong
    How are you so calm
    You are my role model
    You are very honorable

  33. ํ•œ๊ตญ์–ด ๋ณ€์—ญ์ด ๊ฐˆ์ˆ˜๋ก ์ด์ƒํ•ด์š” ใ… ใ… ใ…  ๋ณด๊ณ ์‹ถ์€๋ฐ ์ดํ•ด๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ ต๋„ค์šฉ ๊ทธ๋ž˜๋„ ์ญ‰ ์ •์ฃผํ–‰ํ• ๊ฒŒ์šฉใ…Žใ…Ž

  34. Late comment:

    Iโ€™m happy for you,you are such a good person who loves her children with all her life I hope you have a safe and enjoyable life may God bless your soul โค๏ธโค๏ธ

  35. Having 2 kids at a young age will lead to resentment eventually because both parties are still young and not financially prepared.
    You are very brave to share your story to the world. 17 years old beautiful woman, married with 2 children. I hope everything works out for you. Stay strong.

  36. Just stumbled across your channel and this video, I wanted to say that you're an incredibly strong, mature and beautiful person. After hearing how your story unfolded, I'm amazed at how God's plan was truly perfect for you๐Ÿ’™

  37. Iโ€™m 17 and I can barely look after myself, let alone another human being. Youโ€™re really strong and brave. I feel like Iโ€™m too childish and immature to birth a child.
    Edit: Then again we donโ€™t know how weโ€™d react until it actually happens. People call teen mums immature but itโ€™s the complete opposite. The fact that they took responsibility and raised it is a feat in itself. Thanks for sharing your story ๐Ÿ’—

  38. You are so cuteeeee โคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโค๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜
    i love youuu

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