I HAD A MISCARRIAGE | Tim and Missy


Hey everyone. As you can tell, this isn’t
a normal vlog today and you can tell based on the title that we have some sad news to
share. We decided to tell our story in hopes that
anyone going through the same thing can relate to it and understand and talk about their
experience. Tim and I found out that I was pregnant on
January 31st. We decided, mostly because of me, because I wanted to wait to tell everybody-
we were going to tell family that we were pregnant when I was 8 weeks and we were going
to make a general announcement on YouTube around 10 weeks when we heard a heartbeat.
SO this past Tuesday, I started spotting and I called my Dr immediately and they sent me
in for blood work to check my HCG levels and my progesterone levels. And you always have
to go back 48 hours later to see if your levels doubled increasing or if they went down and
my levels significantly decreased. I got the call on Friday afternoon and even though I
really didn’t NEED the phone call because… I’m in tune with my body. I know my body,
I know what’s going on. Even though some of our friends were like, “you never know.. it
might not be” .. but, yea. The nurse was really awesome and she talked
to me for a long time and she assured me that absolutely nothing that I did caused this
and that it’s not my fault. 1 in ever 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. It’s not one of those
things that you’re impervious to. It’s likely to happen especially if you’re trying to have
a big family like we are. The nurse even said that the more you get pregnant, the more likely
you are to have a miscarriage. Of course that makes sense. She said that even she had a
miscarriage, so knowing that she could actually relate to me and understand and not just be
like, “oh it’s ok just try again next time” because it’s not like that. You become emotionally
involved pretty quickly. We were 6.5 weeks in, just reading all of the updates and knowing
your baby is growing ear lobes and a nose… was it my nose or your nose? Once you really
get thinking about it, it gets even harder. But it is what it is. There’s nothing we can
do about it now, but just deal with it and move on and embrace the kids that we have
and try to make another one. It’s hard to be upset for a long time when you have kids
like we do. Sometimes I feel like I could have the worst day in the world and come home
and Kaiya and Timmy will just cheer me up. Nothing makes us happier than our kids. So we will continue to post videos on a daily
basis, stay tuned and hopefully we will have some good news. We’re definitely going to be more open about
it this time because I guess I learned (you were wanting to be open about it from the
beginning pretty much), but I guess I learned that whether it’s good news or bad news, we
want the support of our friends and family so we are definitely going to share our story
with you guys. So thanks for watching, stay tuned. We’ll
see you tomorrow. Subscribe. And hopefully you’ll see some more exciting news within
the next couple of months. Yea, we’re going to wait at least a month. Alright guys, thanks for watching and thanks
for all of your support and we’ll see you tomorrow. See you later, bye!

29 Replies to “I HAD A MISCARRIAGE | Tim and Missy”

  1. <3 <3 <3 We love you guys and I'm happy you made the video. Situations like this can be heartbreaking but it helps to talk about it and share instead of hiding it.

  2. stay strong guys, embrace each other as well as your beautiful kids. Thank you for "humanizing" a difficult moment that many couples face.

  3. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss, miscarriages are just awful. I know this pain as I went through 2 back to back miscarriages last year. You are so brave for sharing your story and by doing this you are helping so many. Sending you and your family love and strength.

  4. sorry guys you guys have amazing kids sorry 😢😭😭😭😭 that baby was going to do amazing things in his/or her life so sorry 😢😢😢

  5. It's so hard not to feel like it's your fault in some way. I have had this happen to me as well and appreciate when people talk about this, so thank you. I'm a bit better about it now but I still cry whenever someone mentions having this happen to them. I'm so sorry. 🙁 I pray that you are successful some time soon and have a safe pregnancy and birth!

  6. Again I am very sorry sweetie. You are right nobody should go through this alone. I knew when we were going to loose Leia even before it was confirmed and there was no reason. We went in for a routine ultrasound at 37 weeks to find out when our baby was going to born, and was told that she had no heartbeat. Please don't ever let anyone tell you 'it was god's will, or you will get pregnant again' etc etc. Take as long as you need to grieve. Im in tears for you friends. We had Ryder after Leia 13 months after. It was so hard to be pregnant again but we did it. Thanks for sharing this, and again I'm sorry for your loss. Take your time and grieve as much or as little as you need too. I'm here if you wanna talk…

  7. Just subbed (came over from youtube daily family vloggers) I am so sorry and sending love and hugs your way. Definitely looking forward to your good news video in the future.
    Sue

  8. I'm so sorry for you guys. I'll be praying for you all. We lost our 4th baby about 30 years ago, but we went on to have 6 more beautiful babies. I didn't know you guys wanted a big family! HUGS <3

  9. We are so sorry you have to go through this. 😢 we lost our first baby to miscarriage and it was extremely hard to go through, mostly because we didn't have anyone to talk to about it. It's tough because people don't know what to say and can say really hurtful things. We will be thinking of you. Lots of hugs

  10. Very sorry to hear your sad news. I had a series of miscarriages about 26 years ago. The pain does eventually fade but there is always a scar on the heart where your baby should be. I remember reading the poem "Heaven's Nursery". I cried buckets when I read it but I found it very comforting: http://allpoetry.com/poem/7140980-Heavens-Nursery-by-karenmichelle

  11. I'm really sorry to hear about this guys, i know how you are feeling but it is great to see people talking about miscarriage. hugs 🙂

  12. I am so sorry to hear this. My heart knows the pain too.
    Wishing you luck on your journey to a bigger family X

  13. I'm sorry for your loss, I know of moms who get so consumed by the babies they lost they forget the joy of the children they have I think you guys have a really great attitude YTMM<3 new subbie

  14. So sorry for you loss! I know there are no words to really fill the emptiness a miscarriage can bring and sometimes its hard for other people who have never experience it to see how painful it is to loose your little baby. My first pregnancy ended as a miscarriage, it was such a difficult time for my husband and I. Praying for you all. xoxo

  15. I'm so sorry 🙁 We are planning to. ttc baby # 3 in July. I have had one miscarriage so far, it is such an emotional journey <3

  16. Between my 1st to 2nd I also had one. It's the worst feeling ever. Sorry to hear. Sending you xoxox. Please message me if u need to talk

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