Partner not on board with a Home Birth? Now what?

My husband gave us the topic to discuss
today and that was what if you’re partner’s not on board with a home birth? W e are home birth midwives that
work at Well Rounded Momma and serve, the Las Vegas Valley. I never
get that question. Okay never. Just all the time. Just all the time. What do you say when people bring that
up to you? I think for the most part, partners are usually just worried about
emergencies and so they usually just want to know like what happens
if something like that arises? How often does that happen? The truth is we don’t have very many
emergencies at home just because of like good prenatal care and we
are monitoring and stuff. There are a lot of studies that
are in support of home birth, whereas you know, back in the day there weren’t a lot
of studies to kind of promote that or support that. And the British Medical Review Journal
was the kind of the big main one, Manna. MANA now keeps stats and that’s nice
that they have those statistics. Sarah Saucy, up in Canida. Oh yeah, she has the home birth
summit and her researchers, that’s all they do is home birth, hospital transports and collaborative
care outcomes and things like that. So they have a lot of good
resources as well. Yeah. We will put those websites down below
and the links and really good information as far as if she breaks down each state, like how successful is breastfeeding and
how long has breastfeeding happen and how many people got vaginal births after
a cesarean so so she has some really great studies. Oportuity to set up really
good transport plans. And so what that means is our ability
to transfer care during labor in a very safe, effective way where we can
communicate exactly what’s going on. Because you know, in the times where
we’re transferring care during labor, sometimes time is of
the utmost importance. And so if you have like a hospital or a
doctor that’s not willing to talk to a home birth midwife or work
with a home birth midwife, that can be some precious time. And so what’s happened over the years
is you have like some midwives who are afraid to go in and deal with that. So women get dropped off at the Er and
then they’re trying to figure out what’s been going on at home. And we’ve always
been super lucky here. I feel like, at Well Rounded Mamma, like they’ve
always been willing to take our clients. We’ve always had amazing physicians and
certified nurse Midwives who have worked with us, hospitals that
have worked with us. And so we feel like that’s why
our numbers have been good here. And I would say it probably is a big
portion of why our statistics here at Well Rounded Momma are so good is because
we’ve been able to transfer care when we have a client that becomes high
risk. That’s been really nice. I have been changing my verbiage a lot. when I opened Well
Rounded Mamma years ago, I kinda did it with this idea of
informed consent being our platform. And over the last year we’ve, you know, we’ve changed some of their verbiage
to be shared decision making and we are loving that so much. And, the last few, consultations that I’ve done where the
partner came and was asking me questions when I explained what shared decision
making was that actually made them feel like they were part of the process,
that I wasn’t making it decision, that they were uncomfortable with
that because I think informed consent, like, I’ve seen midwives, be like, so you don’t want this right. And
then chart that they didn’t want that. And so sometimes I think it’s hard as
it is the care provider that you think that you whether you think you know what’s in
your client’s best interest or not, you’re essentially doing
what the physician would do. And that is you’re making
choices for your clients. And so I think that’s really
helped. lately for me, the, the partners that are coming in from me
explaining what shared decision making that although I am the
professional in the room, that I’m not gonna make any decisions
regarding your mom and your baby that don’t include you. And I think that
that feels really good to them. As a mom or as you know,
like a pregnant person, like you kind of know in your guts what
it is that you’re attracted to and what it is that you want or think that
you need. You know, if you’re, you’re the kind of person that the
second you step foot in a hospital, you just get sick to your stomach. Probably not the greatest place Like
it’s probably not the greatest place for you to have a baby. And so just, you know, making sure that you really pay
attention to your intuition about it. about it as well. Love It… So there you go. That’s how we handle answering the tough
question of how do you get your partner onboard with the home birth? So that’s us. Have a great day. Like Like and subscribe down
below, isn’t it? It’s down below, below. We could put it up here. Maybe
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Is that a thing? Yeah, I think so. You can ring the bell. You like it when your phone
notifies constantly with ringing, especially if it’s us.

7 Replies to “Partner not on board with a Home Birth? Now what?”

  1. My husband was nervous at first, but after I had our first baby at home he became a big homebirth advocate!

  2. I think that homebirth Midwives do an incredible job of helping parents assess if they are a good candidate for home birth. Schedule a consult with a midwife and ask her ALL THE QUESTIONS! I can almost guarantee you’ll walk away feeling better about natural birth than you did before your consult.

  3. I was terrified of the idea of a home birth. My wife was set on doing it so I did what all good husbands and said yes. So glad I did!!

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