Hi everyone Melissa here at CloudMom.com vlog
number 4 in my series this week about postpartum healing for moms today we’re talking about
sex. How is it after you’ve had a baby? What can you do? I’ve had a little bit of experience
having had 5 vaginal births so I’m going to share some of that, not too much, don’t get
excited. I’m not going to be talking about my sex life with my cute little hubby. But
anyway, talking a little bit about sex I mean this is something I’ve definitely worried
about. I read a lot about it. I heard a lot of women that felt that their sex life was
just completely destroyed from having had a baby. And I will say, 5 babies under my
belt and you know what, I actually don’t feel that it’s affected me that much. I feel very
lucky in that respect so don’t assume the worst.Just to keep yourself in shape, in might
be a good idea to do a few kegel exercises- just with your doctor- during your pregnancy.
And then once you’ve had the baby, once you feel better, just to keep yourself in shape
down there. It never hurts. Okay, so what happens after you’ve had the baby? Now normally,
your doctor will say you’re supposed to wait 6 weeks before anything goes near there -tampon
or anything else. But guess what we just found out? A study has come out that says that 25%
of women violate this rule, this medical guideline, isn’t that unbelievable? And I guess a lot
of them are hoping to have Irish twins. So anyway, I just thought that was so funny.
The reality is you are supposed to wait the 6 weeks. What happened with me with my first
baby and what I think does happen to a lot of women is that the first time you’re there
you’re whatever and guess what? It freaking kills, it hurts so, so much. This is what
happened to me. I was devastated. I was like “Oh my God is this what’s going to happen?
Is this how it’s going to be forever.” It was just so painful and that was just mostly
the first time. It did get better. With my first baby, I felt that way for a while. I
breastfed for a long time and more than anything it was like that dryness. So I did actually
call my doctor up about this and she recommended a lubricant. We used KY Jelly. However, moving
on! With my other children, it was much less of an issue. Basically, not an issue so my
whole solution to the whole sex after baby thing is just keep having babies. I mean what
could be better for your sex life or your relationship? Because I really didn’t have
a problem with those other babies. So anyway, this is something that should resolve itself
overtime. Use a lubricant, be honest about it, talk about it, and share this with your
husband. It doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to him or with your partner. And more than
anything please, if don’t feel to shy about these things, feel free to share what’s worked
for you by commenting on my vlog on CloudMom so that we can sort of spread the word so
that we can help those moms who are very nervous about this in expecting their first baby’s.
So thank you so much for joining, you can also tweet me at CloudMom. And look forward
to talking to tomorrow in the 5th vlog in our series postpartum mommy care tacking tomorrow
post baby blues so see ya then!